nine centuries waiting: the experiences of iranians surrogacy commissioning mothers

a bstract   background: there are a few studies about commissioning mothers’ understanding from the surrogacy during 9 months of waiting for delivery in iran and other countries. this study was conducted with an aim to explore and explain the nature of concerns (experiences) of commissioning mothers. materials and methods:  a qualitative design with a conventional content analysis approach was used to gather and analyze the experiences of commissioning mothers. they were selected from royan research centre and other infertility centers in iran. after purposive sampling for the selection of the participants, unstructured interviews were held for data collection. twenty-four unstructured interviews were conducted with 12 commissioning mothers, 2 surrogate mothers, and 2 infertility center social workers who directly and continuously dealt with these mothers. results: two main themes emerged from the data analysis: 1. cultural dilemma (consisting of three subthemes: social taboo, concerns about disclosure to others and the child, concerns about altering maternal and child’s identity, and 2. uncertain waiting (consisting of three subthemes: concerns about health of fetus and surrogate, concerns about an unfamiliar surrogate, and concerns about lack of preparation for maternal role). conclusions:  the study reveals the importance of maternal emotional care in this group and introduces a new arena for nurses’ activity. these fi ndings help the mothers by nurses’ activities in health care clinics and anywhere they deliver nursing care.